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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Oct 21, 2022

As much as you have studied, anayzed and experienced the high level narcissist, the unbounded heights of their grand delusions of self are astounding. Watching them perform is both riveting and appalling.

The high level narcissist builds his/her delusons over time starting with the earliest years particularly if he/she is the golden child. In some families there are a couple of children who are branded as pure gold, highly prized, invaluable, perfect.

If you are treated and told from babyhood that you are perfect, can make no mistakes, that you reign above others in every respect, it is understandable that certain children would take on the identity of the high level narcissist. With mother and/or father continually showering you with compliments, statements about your brillance, myriad of gifts, your personal powers of charm, self confidence and charisma, it is not surprising that the golden child narcissist is born of the heavy prental barrages of a kind of worhsip on their part. Their other children are considered very mediocre.

Contributing to the grand delusion of the narcissist is the lack of conscience which doesn't develop. This is the result of the parents' not placing any limits or boundaries on the budding narcissist. These parents doen't teach this child right and wrong, the capacity for empathy or an interest and respect for individuals other them himself/herself. 

As a result the budding high level lacks a conscience.  Of course he or she would not be foolish enough to get caught in their lying wys.  They are cunning and clever enough to cover their tracks and in some instances create a diversion and manipulate that works so that others are blamed for their misdeeds. Beneath the surface in the unconscious the high level narcissist is psychologically a two year old tantrum mode when he/she doesn't completely get his way, despite his/her negative character traits: demanding, outrageous, manipulative, exploitive callousness. 

Are you too familiar with this description and analysis of the high level narcissist? Were you married to or partnered with one of these impossible individuals? Did you have to deal with a high level narcissistic parent who treated you with humiliations and disdain?

At a point of awakening you are clear about the true nature of the high level narcissist, his/her delusions, cunning, lack of conscience, exploitiveness, mendacity, total lack of empathy. 

Practice self care each day: get the rest and sleep you need and deserve, eat pure food--organic if you can, movement and exercise that works for you, your form of meditation. 

Give yourelf great credit for the journey you have taken, the insights you have made, the perserverance that leads you to this point of awakening and choosing yourself, that wonderful individual of courage and wisdom. You ride now with the wind at your back; the vistas are wide and beautiful, the beginnings of new chapters to be written by you are straight ahead.

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