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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Aug 30, 2020

High level narcissists are obsessed and preoccupied with the impressions they are making.

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The narcissist is always preoccupied with the impression he/she is making...For some, everything in their environment--homes cars, personal possessions--must reflect a flawless self. 

Some individuals lead their entire lives exclusively on a surface level. They are incapable of of introspection, the process of going inside of oneself. Their focus is on the material. by this I mean physical appearance, professional and economic status, societal power."

Their sense of identity is based not on a search for insight, empathy, working with one's character, but the amplification, exaggeration or fabrication of their accomplishments.

Some high level narcissists insist on having perfect children that provide them with the ultimate narcissistic supply.

They choose a golden child who represents their perfection and extraordinary power. The high level narcissistic parent psychologically fuses with this child who identifies with the parent and not with his true self.

High level narcissists are often bright and talented and very charming and successful.

They fool most people with their highly adept personas and skillful manipulations.

High level narcissists control the lives of others in the cruelest ways, causing extraordinary psychological and emotional pain.

If you are partnered with or married to a high level narcissist, this description and portrayal is very familiar to you. You have spent years and decades in extreme chronic stress, anxiety and depression. In this non marriage you are exhausted, worn down. You are awakening to the true nature of the high level narcissist your insights and knowledge are well grounded and very clear. You choose to leave this empty, externally oriented lifestyle and extricate yourself from the psychopathy of the high level narcissist. You are authentic and genuine with many creative gifts. You are separating out from the high level narcissist on your pathway of recovery, transformation and evolution. You are simplifying your days , following your deep intuitions and the routines of self care.