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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Apr 29, 2020

The ability to self comfort is essential to our sense of self and well-being. The baby is born helpless and dependent. He(she) must be nourished to grow and thrive. Besides physical needs the baby has an inherent psychological need to be held, cuddled and warmly embraced by the parenting figure. 

As a child of a narcissistic parent you were deprived of these experiences. Rather,

As a child:

You weren't comforted

You felt like a stranger in your home

You were hypervigilant

You felt abandoned and alone

You always worried

YOu were constantly anxious

You weren't allowed to cry

You slept lightly or not at all

You were always tired

You struggled through the days; you dreaded the nights

Now as an adult you can learn to practice self comfort:

The fine art of rest, Discovering beauty, Tapping into your wise child.