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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Nov 22, 2019

Empaths are unique individuals with capacities of keen perception, sensitivities, the ability to feel very deeply for others. They experience everything with great intensity. Loud noises, large crowds, bright lights are difficult for the empath to navigate or tolerate.

Empaths feel into what another person is experiencing on deep levels. Their caring empathy and tenderness are extraordinary. The empath's gifts are coupled with great challenges. They have a difficult time blocking cruel projections. They can be easily shamed and internalize fault when they re not to blame. 

Narcissists are often drawn to empaths. Narcissists are the opposite of these individuals. They are takers, not giver; they re ego driven; they wear convincing false self masks. Narcissists have a very compromised conscience. Narcissists are obsessed with controlling others through manipulation and exploitation.

The empath is the direct opposite: they give too much of themselves to the point of deprivation and psychological pain,; empaths tend to have a strict conscience and often feel needless guilt. Empaths are genuine and authentic and don't wear false  masks. Empaths are straightforward about themselves, sometimes too much of an open book. 

You can break the cycle of returning back to narcissistic partners:

Set up a time each day for yourself. Examples of what you can do:spontaneous writing and journaling to let your creative juices flow. 

Take care of your body/mind. Make sleep and rest a priority. Make it a point to get to bed early, before 10 PM. Pay attention to what is comforting to you. Blankets, sheets and pillows that you like. Think of yourself as putting your baby self to bed with great love as you do with a small child. 

Come up with a form of quiet time during the day that works for you. You can listen to beautiful music as you sit in a chair or lie down. You can do mindful breathing. 

Spend time each day with some forms of beauty - photos of great paintings, in Nature, listening to special music that you choose for yourself.

Develop strong grounded psychological boundaries that are sacred to you and no one can trespass. Eat nourish pure food. Move and exercise in the way that is best for you. 

Embrace your uniqueness, your gifts of invaluable intuition and keen perception. 

Steeped in your journey of the original self, you are learning to value who you truly are. 

As a result you create your own special pathway that belongs to you. You will not repeat or follow what any person, including a narcissist tries to impose on you.

You are wise, whole and strong.