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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Jan 22, 2022

 Quoting from my book "Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life" : A lie is a handy tool the narcissist uses to enhane and protect the image he has sopainstakingly built. Lies are automatic. They flow from him as effortlessly as sweat coming through pores...He (the narcissist) knows he can lie and get away with it...The narcissist insists that the way must be clear for him to move ahead...He looks you right in the eye and lies without hesitation...He is glib with his lies, he shades the truth or tells an outright lie."

You cannot have a real relationship with someone who lies to you. Those who are partnered with or married to a high level narcissist are constantly being lied to by their spouse or partner. 

High level narcissits are masters of deceit and takepride in their lies. They have developed this activity to a high art.

Compartmentalization: The high level narcissist is highly secretive. He (she) cannot be authentic, real or true. He often leads a secret life. It is not unusual for these individuals to have several "close" relationships going forward simultaneously. Being married doesn't interfere with the high level narcissist's straying to other partners. These individuals don't have a well developed conscience and are known to give in to their libidinal proclivities. They rationalize about these behaviors and always can give themselves perfec excuses for their immoral behaviors. The high level is the puppeteer who who creates roles for thos who share his world. 

Re-Writing History: High level narcissists are constantly revising their personal and work histories, resumes, family histories and stories, academic and professional bona fides.

Double Downing on Their Lies: High level are completely shameless. They look deep into your eyes and lie directly to you. Narcissists develop the dark art of lying very early growing up. If we didn't have a conscience wouldn't it be smoother and easier to tell clever untruth that increased your personal power and control and enlarged your gilded image.

Lies of Omission: High level narcissists leave out whole swaths of forbidden behaviors that they know will exasperate their partners, spouses, ex-spouses, children, business associates. They are drive by ego and their ever-present goals of reaching the highest summits of power, control and the fruits of their excessive greed.

You are different from the high level narcissist. You have a finely developed conscience. You don't lie; you don't deceive people. Your relationships are genuine and not used to control and overpower others. You rae capable of deep empathey and are capable of putting yourself in the place of another with regard to their feelings, thoughts, intentions and the problems and issues that challenge them.

Here's to you, an individual of integrity, perseverance, spiritual vitality, traveling your unique pathways of transformation, evolution and creativity. 

Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist available on Amazon. Click here to view and purchase