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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Oct 28, 2022

The external image of the high level narcissist is the polar opposite of his/her internal world.  On the outside the classic narcissist is often physically attractive, highly self confident, overflowing with charm. You feel the strong handshake, the eyes that penetrate your gaze, the rising of the jaw that tells you they are sure of every step. They spin phenomenal visions that are fueled by their grandiosity. Many people are facinated by the narcissist in full bloom, exhibiting all of his/her persuasive gifts. 

Beneath the glittery, irresistible surface, the inner world of the high level narcissist is empty, bleak and dark. There is an inert quality to the inner narcissist. These individuals are unacquainted with their unconscious feelings about themselves. They believe their finely spun delusions. They convince others that they are superior and super human. Their followers are blindly loyal and believe they can do no wrong.  Deep in the unconsicous the narcissist is drowning in his/her self loathing and fraudulence. He is psychologically empty and emotionally rudderless.  

If you are married to or partnered with a high level narcissist, despite the role that you play, know that this person is never going to change. This is a severe personality disorder that is fixed and rigid. The narcissist lives in a psychological darkness that pulls others down into its depths.

How long will you stay and be disastrously affected by this individual. Are there enough material rewards to cover up the stench of his/her vile deeds and deceits. 

Listen and you will hear the voice of your intuition rising, speaking to you in a compelling tone, telling you: "Get out now. Leave. Don't stay or you will be trapped and lose yourself."

There are many who have successfully removed themselves from the high level narcissist's world.  They have re-discovered themselves as individuals. The cracks of light have lengthened. You see through the narcissist's curtains of delusions and false personas. 

Practice self care each day: rest, sleep, eat nourishing food, pure water, movement and exercise your way, a form of meditation that fits your definition, time with Nature that is grounding and restorative.

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