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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Apr 30, 2021

Narcissistic mothers come in innumerable sizes, shapes, proclivities, temperaments, dispositions but they have traits in common with regard to the way they treat their children. Being the child of a narcissistic mother is one of the most difficult , complex and painful human roles,

Narcissistic mothers:

Focus ont hemselves whether they are overt or covert narcissistic personalities.

These mothers insist on their version of "reality" not yours.

They are highly entitled to get and have whatever they want. If this means that you are their servant that's just fine with them.

Narcissistic mothers rather than have a genuine relationship with their child are highly exploitive, using them to suit her purposes.

Their children are put into roles that burnish the narcissistic  mother's perfect public image.

Narcissistic mothers are great actors who convince family members, social and professional circles that they are highly devoted and dedicated and loving toward their children. They are method actors in this way and fool almost everyone. 

Narcissistic mothers are masters of control and rule the household and children like tyrannical potentates. 

Narcissistic mothers humiliate their children, weakening them psychologically and causing them to doubt themselves.

Narcissistic mothers are hypocrites---very strict and insistent that  their child behaves perfectly but having no standards of civility or empathy in the way that she treats her children. 

Narcissistic mothers re incapable of true insight and spend their days in states of psychological denial and manufactured version of their delusional world where they reign as perfect, fine individuals. This is their belief.

You are a separate individual from your narcissistic mother. Learn to appreciate your individuality, creativity gifts, your warmth, intelligence, self initiation, kindness and psychological strength and stamina.