Jun 27, 2019
Narcissistic mothers know that they are superior to everyone else, their spouses, friends, relatives, especially their daughters. If you are the daughters you felt your mother appraising you very early and finding you wanting. She picked away at your self confidence. Her tone of voice and her gaze were demeaning. She never approved of you. You may have been attractive, beautiful, bright, talented. This would not have mattered. She was in competition with yo from the beginning. Some narcissistic mothers resent how much attention the father is giving to his baby daughter. If the bond is loving and close, she becomes incensed. As you grow she tells lies about you to make you look inferior to others. Your narcissistic mom lied about you all of the time. She wished that you never existed and told you directly innumerable times. In private these mothers humiliate, intimidate and terrorize their daughters, seeking submission and blind obedience. The homes of thee daughters become prisons, at times a form of solitary confinement.
This woman is a narcissistic personality who is not going to change. As an adult you have options of no contact or occasional contact.
Practice daily self care - nourishing food, rest, sleep, relaxation, move and exercise in the way that works for you, seek the beauty of the natural world as you get in touch with your wonderful true authentic self. You are unique, a precious, gifted, strong, courageous individual.