Dec 16, 2020
Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life:
"On the surface the empathy of the narcissist seems to be genuine. With a mastery of social graces and his/her quick study of human nature, the high level narcissistic personality appears to care about our deepest and most intimate thoughts and feelings. He uses this ability to tap into the other person's narcissistic needs for admiration, praise, recognition and power. Behind the feigned attentiveness and apparent concern is cool calculation. "
Pseudo empathy is packaged as a finely tuned performance, an ac that convinces most people.:
"The narcissist always has a variety of scenarios in mind for those caught in his web of enchantment He/she wants something that each one can supply him/her: money, entree to powerful connections, a stunning woman or man at is side...Like any great predator---an eagle in the highest branch of a fir tree who sees all: a red tailed hawk figure-eighting in the open sky, a cheetah stalking in the tall golden grasses."
The high level narcissist is a restless, conscience-less being, high flyer, always seeking, gratifying himself/herself.
Ultimately the high level is always an exploiter, who will get what he wants no matter the price paid by the individuals who get caught in their golden circles or complex webs.
You have been through a series of ordeals with the high level narcissist and now you understand their true nature and know that you can no longer be a part of their inner circle entourage.
You value your true self, your individuality, your creative gifts, your fullness as a grounded, unique individual: strong, resilient, spiritual, grounded, whole.