Sep 10, 2020
Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The word ruth, which comes from Middle English means "pity," or "compassion." To be ruthless is to treat another person without mercy. Because of the narcissist's skillful use of seductive charm and refined social graces, it is difficult for most people to believe that a narcissist can be cold and ruthless. When he wants something from you he is purposely disarming, listening to your every word, focusing his attention on you like a laser beam. He gives you a rush, a feeling of excitement as if the most wonderful thing is about to happen to you. Often successful professionally, the narcissist may impress you with the fruits of his elegant lifestyle. He might bring you temporarily into his inner circle to dazzle you. The accoutrements of his power are compelling, even thrilling."
High level narcissists are very restless individuals. Many of them run with a high metabolic rate and as a result have boundless energy. Without the weight of conscience or true empathy, they move through their days with stealth, uninterrupted by the worries, fears, regrets, self doubts of other human beings.
Hyper confident, they don't stew over their innumerable sins of the heart. When things go wrong it is always the other person who is conveniently blamed and made to feel guilty. The high level zeros in on vulnerable, sensitive, emotionally attuned individuals who he/she knows he can control manipulate and exploit.
The high level narcissist is a "climber" who spends his days, yeasr and decades exploiting everyone to move up professionally and financially.
The high level has no empathy. He/she uses people up and then moves on to find new victims. These ruthless individuals are driven by their needs to have more. They epitomize greed. Obsessed with money lust, they are always chasing pleasure, experiential excess.
If you are married to or partnered with a high level narcissist, it has taken you some time and a series of cruelties perpetrated by this individual to begin to awaken to the true nature of this person.
You are worn down and exhausted, filled with anxiety and dread, even feeling guilty that you have not done more to make the high level become more responsible. Some blame themselves for the extreme psychopathology of the high level narcissist.
These are moments of awakening and knowing who this individual truly is, a deluded, self absorbed, overly entitled, selfish person without conscience or empathy.
Now you know the truth and you are moving forward to separate yourself from the high level narcissist.
As yo step away from this pernicious non-relationship you become more keenly aware of your unique individuality, your fine character, perseverance, psychological and emotional stamina, and your creative gifts.
You are moving along your own pathway, the winds are shifting in your direction. You feel your confidence and independence rise. Give yourself tremendous credit for your role of your rediscovery of your authentic self.
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