Sep 26, 2022
Covert narcissists create and maintain a delusional world where they are perfect and everyone else is flawed except for those who dwell within their tightly controlled golden circles. It is from these chosen individuals that the narcissist receives abundant overflowing cascades of narcissistic supplies: praise, adulation, veneration, perpetual positive attention and affirmation. The covert narcissist is unable and unwilling to look inside at his/her character flaws, his multiple cruelties perpetrated on to others, including spouses, partners children and siblings. Though highly judgmental and demeaning of his fellow human beings, the covert is decidedly unintrospective. He moves through life at mach speed, disrupting the snese of security and inner peace of all those who bruise his/her grandiose ego.
Control obsessed, the covert directs with minute detail the actions, feelings, thoughts and words of those closest to them. He/she is a ominous prsence in their daily lives, a specter of terror and dread.
The covert with his/her undramatic, underplayed image fools most people. Gifted at affecting a believable fake empathy, he/she passes himself/herself off as a fine human being of solid character who always want the best for you.
All of this is a lie, a delusion, a mirage, a cruel farce.
Covert narcississ are determined to break you psychologically and emotionally by keepin you in the fight or flight mode, a state of psychophysiological siege so that you will submit to their sadistic demands.
They keep you panicked and immobilized so that yo compromise yor good judgment and relinquich your power over to them.
They seize on your fear of abandonment to keep you psychologically fused with them and at their command.
They infliect guilt on you when irinically they are the moral and emotional transgressors.
They seek revenge when you show assertion or independence of though or action. They threaten to dissemble your close relationships with others by gossiping and spreading ugly rumors and lies about your character.
With secret cunning they can devise long range intricate plans to steal your perosnal financial assets and properties and leave you with nothing.
After many years spent under the domination and duress of the covert narcissist, you have a time of reckoning. You know clearly through your research, discernment and intuition that you are separating from and leaving the covert narcissistic spouse/partner. You move forward along the pathways of self care and the evolution of your authentic, creative self. You are steadfast and grounded. The winds are at your back. Give yourself tremendous credit for advocating and acting for yourself---a precioius, strong, grounded individual of great character!
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