Nov 19, 2020
Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The future partner of the narcissist was often the child of an arrogant, demanding, narcissistic parent. From his/her earliest days, he was conditioned to respond to his parent's arbitrary rules and whims. The narcissistic mother or father conducted himself as a dictator, without a conscience, immune to any outside authority From the time they are little, these children become experts at catering to the idiosyncratic needs of the narcissistic parent. In other instances those who end up in the shadows are raised by neglectful emotionally absent parents. When children have been treated without affection and care, they are incapable of creating intimate attachments. Beneath the psychological wounding lie feelings of helplessness, depression and rage. These negative emotions are hidden because the psychological pain that they wreak is unbearable. They are forgotten, left in the cold storage of the unconscious. Often the child who has felt unloved, desperately seeks satisfaction by turning to a person who promises to satisfy his needs for attention and validation. Those who cast themselves in shadow are psychologically hungry."
They are ripe for attaching themselves to a charming, irresistible narcissistic personality who is gifted at the arts of seduction and manipulation, combined with exciting empty promises.
There is a time of reckoning when you recognize that you must separate from the high level narcissist and move along your pathways of restoration, transformation, creativity and spiritual practice the way you define.
Remember self care each day: rest, sleep, good nutrition, hydration, movement and exercise, listening to beautiful music.